It’s December! The Christmas hype has begun & it’s now acceptable to play Christmas songs. There’s a lot of expectation placed on this time of the year & everyone appears to be happy, merry & full of joy.
Christmas always brings mixed feelings for me; on one hand I look forward to sharing it with family but on the other I feel the pressure to be happy & upbeat. Theres an expectation for everything to be picture perfect which sets off my anxiety & low mood.
From the age of 14 I remember dreading Christmas & I was riddled with anxiety. From then on in I dreaded every Christmas & I made myself ill at the thought of it. I always felt lonely even when surrounded by family & when my dad left it was really only me & my mum celebrating.
Over the years I’ve realised that not everyone is happy at Christmas, it’s the loneliest time of the year for many. I remember going quiet on the run up to Christmas & I would stop replying to my friends text messages & wait until after Christmas to contact them. I couldn’t face anyone asking me if I was looking forward to Christmas & what my plans where. I was scared to open up & tell anyone how I really felt.
I understand that this time of the year is difficult for many people with the dread of Christmas & the pressure to be happy. My advice would be to talk about how you really feel, trust someone & open up & spend Christmas Day with people you love. Try not to isolate yourself with ignoring friends text messages or going off social media to try & cope. From experience, I know this makes it worse & if your concerned about a friend reach out & simply ask them “are you okay?”.
I hope December is a good month for you & I’m always here if you need to chat.
Signing off with Chewie & Santa Paws 😊